Each of us has aspects of our character that, rather than being part of the person, appear as attitudes or “habits” derived from anxiety, which tend to mix with our true personality.
This dangerous mix can lead us to seem strange or unpleasant, making our life difficult especially when others judge us based on these actions, without stopping to really know our way of being.
In today’s article we will talk about 5 of these habits, so that, by knowing them, you can learn to better manage your anxiety and your emotions, giving the best of you and learning to show your true personality.
1. Apologize for everything
Anxious people have the constant feeling of being a burden or a nuisance to others, just as they feel obliged to satisfy everyone all the time and for this they apologize all the time. They apologize for everything and for nothing, repeatedly, like a tic they can’t control.
People’s discomfort derives from this attitude, which like many others is unhealthy and annoying. It makes it uncomfortable not to know how to respond to a person who apologizes for things that don’t matter, sometimes even for everyday aspects that don’t depend on them in any way.
2.Take everything too personal
This habit is closely linked to the previous one. These people tend to put too much weight on everything that is said or pointed out to them. They can think about it for hours and days, going so far as to make a simple comment a serious offense.
This tends to escalate into a vicious circle. They get anxious and nervous because of that comment, and by dint of thinking about it they keep their anxiety levels at their peak. To curb these thoughts, they sometimes take refuge in the opposite extreme, on the path of gratitude and apology. A choice that in turn can make them feel ridiculous and even more anxious.
3. Leaving places or leaving conversations in the middle
Very often anxiety leads people to give the worst of themselves, generating attitudes of avoidance or flight in the face of threats or situations that seem to get out of hand. Another consequence of anxiety is that it causes people to focus too much on themselves and the causes of their anxiety, completely isolating themselves from the rest of the surrounding stimuli, such as a conversation.
It’s not that these people don’t appreciate the company, just anxiety gets the better of them and they find no better solution than to leave the place of conversation and think about something else, even knowing that they could give the impression of being rude.
4. Always think about the worst possible scenario
Here is another aspect related to anxiety. Although at certain times in life or in specific situations we have all thought about the worst possible scenario, anxious people have a habit of increasing the likelihood of the worst happening. Constantly being projected for the worst can cause physical or mental problems, chronic fatigue, and difficulty in having relationships.
These people believe that anticipating the future can protect them and prevent anxiety, but they don’t know that by doing so, instead, they only generate more fear and uncertainty. By focusing only on the negative things, in fact, they feed anxiety, they are unable to enjoy anything and end up favoring the realization of the much feared scenario.
We can analyze situations with caution and be ready for anything, but always having in mind that the future cannot be predicted and that escaping from situations will not protect us from events, on the contrary, it will only prevent us from enjoying things, people and life.
5. Always taking too long to make decisions
Anxious people tend to analyze situations down to the smallest detail, proving to be extremely slow in the decision-making process; even in the case of the simplest decisions that do not involve right or wrong answers, such as what to wear or where to eat. This “habit” has repercussions not only on the person concerned, but also on the job, on the partner or on the children.
Making decisions can cause anxiety for anyone, we are all afraid of making mistakes, however the tendency to analyze everything too carefully when making a decision risks causing even greater anxiety. Sometimes it’s better to decide, make mistakes and correct yourself.
Many of the decisions we face cannot be delegated or evaded. Deciding is a daily act whose outcome depends on a multitude of variables. Some of them cannot be controlled, like fate, but others – like our attitude – depend on us. We will have to invest our efforts on them.
These bad habits fuel anxiety
With this article we have tried to show that sometimes bad habits of anxious people can even increase their state of anxiety. If, therefore, knowing these situations is the first step to avoiding them, it is also good to learn to face your anxiety openly, so that others can come to our aid.
Another fundamental aspect in these cases is, in fact, not to tackle the problem alone. Anxious people are convinced that no one can help them solve their problems, and sometimes they are even ashamed to ask for help. Nothing could be further from reality: sharing one’s feelings will prevent others from formulating wrong hypotheses about them, helping them, indeed, to show themselves more understanding.