Self-motivation is a concept that is not always understood correctly or completely. Self-motivation is not just a strategy to overcome the lack of interest in human tasks or relationships or to act without protest or apology. Self-motivation also means undertaking an activity or persevering in it for oneself, that is, without someone to insist, encourage, stimulate or blackmail us.
In children, self-motivation to learn is naturally present up to age 7. Since everything they do is aimed at learning and discovering, both the world and themselves, in general, it is not necessary to tell them anything.
However, from the age of 7 or earlier if a strong lack of motivation is observed, it becomes necessary to incentivize the development of self-motivation, as it is a fundamental skill if you want to be successful in life.
While self-motivation can only come from within us, there are methods by which you can help your children to nurture it ; in this way, you will give them an advantage which will be noticed later on. Below we give you some advice.
How to encourage self-motivation in your children
Build their self-confidence
Children are more motivated when they have to learn, do certain things or connect with others if they believe they are capable of doing it. Trusting children is the first step for them to have confidence in themselves.
If you really want to help your child, give him the opportunity to solve problems on his own, to find solutions to the little puzzles of everyday life and to face new situations. If he is wrong, if he does not do things correctly or as you would like, he does the same. What really matters is that your child feels capable of doing this.
The hyper-protection of the parents, the constant accompaniment, the help in the accomplishment of the tasks accentuate the dependence of the children and prevent them from having confidence in their abilities and to seek the necessary motivation to improve.
Encourage them to persist
Reward your child’s efforts instead of just noticing their successes; in doing so, you will increase his self-motivation. Thus, you will help your child develop the adaptability to cope with failure and keep going until he gets something.
Being persistent is a fundamental emotional skill to achieve success in all areas. Teach your child to accept his mistakes, show him that defeat or failure is nothing more than an opportunity to improve and learn.
Feed their interests
Everyone, including children, has an interest in something specific. Even if your child’s interests don’t match your expectations or tastes, you need to push him to do what he feels good about.
Do not manipulate him so that he becomes passionate about what you would like or think is convenient: help him to find his passions freely. This will act as an inner engine that will keep the child happy, active and cheerful. Not only will he be able to do what he likes most, but he can also share it with whoever he wants.
Give them the opportunity to taste success
If there is one motivating element that pushes us to give the best of ourselves, it is the chance to savor success. Success is addictive. It shows us that we are capable, that we can do things, that we can overcome our limits and that we can do more and better than what we did before.
Apply the pedagogy of success with your child. Do you want me to learn how to do something? Is he motivated to develop a new skill? Show him that he can do it right away, with a new task that he can accomplish. As he progresses, let him feel that he is conquering stages and triumphs.
When your child achieves a new success, praise him instead of reminding him of all the things he has not yet accomplished.