How To Deal With Hypersensitive People

How to deal with hypersensitive people

Hypersensitive people are extremely intuitive people who sense everything earlier and with greater intensity than others. This extreme sensitivity usually makes them very critical, as their expectations are higher too.

Noises, smells or how others behave are often a key point for highly sensitive people.  Because they are fully aware of their extreme sensitivity, they often feel uncomfortable and react as soon as they notice the slightest change. Many times their reaction may seem exaggerated to others and in most cases it gets worse over time.

A problem that often comes with hypersensitive people is that they are misunderstood and pass for surly and moody. People do not understand the reason for their reaction, nor do they consider its intensity adequate, which worsens the situation and creates discomfort and an unpleasant atmosphere.

Respect: the basis of the relationship with hypersensitive people

Not understanding the way to react or to experience the stimuli of others is not a reason to be angry or marginalized. Nor is it a valid reason to tease or try to elicit a violent reaction. All of this, which may seem funny to many, makes hypersensitive people suffer and affects their self-esteem. Many can become shy and withdrawn because of this.

If you live or spend a lot of time with a hypersensitive person and their reactions are filled with moodiness or pessimism, you may want to ask yourself to what extent you are the cause and what you can do to encourage more appropriate reactions.

The other is not guilty of his great sensitivity, just as you cannot avoid feeling pain and move away abruptly when a flame approaches your skin or a needle pricks your finger.

In any case, respecting the way of experiencing and receiving the stimuli of hypersensitive people is the solution to behave in the right way with them and promote a healthy relationship and a pleasant climate for all.

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How to deal with hypersensitive people

Applying the principle of respect is sometimes not easy, especially since highly sensitive people are usually used to not being treated well. The lack of understanding of the people around them leads them to be more and more sensitive.

The following tips will help you behave well with highly sensitive people, as well as take care of them. They can suffer from facts or situations that we not only underestimate, but that sometimes we don’t even take into consideration.

Speak in a low voice and avoid noises

It may seem obvious, but many times we are not aware of how annoying the volume of our voice or the devices we keep on or the noise of what we are doing can be annoying. Respecting others also implies knowing how to control the intensity of sounds.  

With noise and loud volume, we invade the personal space of others  and create a climate prone to bad mood and abrupt reactions in which dialogue and empathy stop being an option for the person in front of us.

When volume or noise disturbs us, we are unable to think clearly and emotions begin to dominate our rational mind. It happens to everyone, hypersensitive and non-hypersensitive. The difference is that the hypersensitive feels the stimulus first.

Don’t think that they always complain

If there’s one thing that bothers hypersensitive people, it’s being accused of always complaining. They react like everyone else when something bothers them. The difference, again, is that they perceive the stimulus earlier and with greater intensity.

Ask to be informed about what is bothering them

One of the problems with dealing with hypersensitive people is knowing what bothers them and to what extent it hurts them. Be understanding and willing to help; ask in good manners that they explain the source of their annoyance. Also ask what you can do to avoid it if the solution is not clear to you.

Even the hypersensitive person must understand that you do not perceive things in the same way, but that you are interested in not bothering them,  that you do so without realizing that you are bothering them.

Respect their time and space

People adapt to the environment. It is a basic rule of survival. However, not everyone does it equally. Even  people who are hypersensitive develop the way they adapt to the circumstances. As with any person, some do it one way and others do it differently, while all are effective.

However, hypersensitive people develop their own form of adaptation and in many cases try to lead a normal life. However, they need their time and space. Their strategies may require high doses of concentration, get away from the crowd for a while, or keep a certain distance. Respect it and it will be easier.

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Do not foment discussions on sensitive issues

Issues such as politics and religion (and in some circles football or the most popular sport in the country) are sensitive issues on which it is very easy to generate a discussion.

Nurturing conversations on these issues can be a minefield, so it is not advisable to delve into these kinds of conversations. It will emotionally hurt them more than any other person.

However, hypersensitive people can certainly talk about sensitive issues; It depends on the person. For this reason, it is important to try to identify the themes so as not to argue with them and to identify the signs that indicate that a conversation topic is not the most suitable for a particular person.

Pay attention to the details

Hypersensitive people are great observers. By looking at the details, they make sense of the world around them. Details that appear insignificant to others can be very important to them. Paying attention to details will allow you to be more empathetic with these people, to show understanding and help them feel better. 

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