Sometimes we keep certain thoughts and feelings inside for so long that we are then able to express them even without the help of words. This is easy to do, because verbal language only accounts for a small percentage of our emotional communication.
We are able to express ourselves with our eyes, with gestures, with the position of the body and with our attitude and, often, all this says much more than simple letters put together to explain our feelings and our thoughts. Communication is very versatile and broad and that is why we can say that, even if we shut our mouths, there are hundreds of elements that function as subtitles and that convey our message.
In theory, this is not bad, as it is not always appropriate or necessary to put into words what we feel or think in order to communicate it to others. It is on these occasions, therefore, that emotional communication offers various possibilities and is much more extensive.
What you need to know to refine our communication skills
As we said at the beginning of the article, emotional communication is very broad and is based on different elements, such as facial expressions, movements, gestures, touch, choice of words, tone of voice, metaphors , etc.
Expressing what we feel or think is much more complicated when the information is hidden behind anger or sadness. There are many reasons why we don’t want to express our feelings when mixed with negative experiences or emotions.
Other times, however, we think our feelings are too frightening or annoying to be communicated. We may even consider it unfair to oppress those around us with emotional issues and feelings that “aren’t really that important.”
Maybe we can’t even find the words to explain what is happening to us or we believe that if we express our feelings we will violate our intimacy and privacy.
Despite this, as we have already said, trying to hide your feelings does not mean that they are not seen, especially because, when they start to overflow, they become very evident.
It is not difficult for us to imagine that hostility hides behind sarcasm or that a person who looks away and smiles is in love with another, even if he does not want to show it.
When we perceive emotions or try to share an emotional message, we always focus on posture, facial expressions, tone of voice … This means that we pay more attention to how things are said, rather than what is said.
Both for communication and for reading emotional information it is necessary:
- Pay attention to the face and facial expressions.
- Interpret the movements and gestures.
- Give importance to the language of touch.
- Pay attention to what the rumor reveals.
- Turn feelings into words.
- Knowing how to listen to both ourselves and others.
Simply put, to be able to effectively communicate our emotions, we need more than just words. In fact, we must both send and receive non-verbal messages in the correct way. Rarely we only use facial expressions or gestures to communicate, but we usually use all these elements of communication together.
For this reason it is important to synchronize all these elements to be able to express what we feel in the depths of the heart and to improve our mood in general. The tears that are not crying and the words that are not spoken can take us to the abyss and, above all, they are a source of misunderstanding and useless emotional isolation.
When we become skilled communicators, our relationships improve, as does our way of seeing life and contemplating conflicts. This helps us to feel better and to know how to listen, which, even if it requires effort, brings significant benefits.